God observed at creation that it is not good for humans to be alone (Genesis 2:18). And we observe this in our own lives.
And yet too often when it comes to our own need for healing and help, we choose to go it alone. We experience pain, and at the moment we most need support from others, we withdraw.
This is easy for any of us to slip into, but we must understand that we cannot walk alone AND walk the path to healing, or even the path of following Jesus. They are, of course, the same path.
And this path is always walked with fellow pilgrims. It’s never walked alone.
I’ve found the primary thing that keeps us walking alone is…
denial. Denial that we need healing. Denial that we all could use some help. Denial that this stuff applies to me.
But what I hope we all can see or begin to see is that we’re all in need at some level; we’ve all endured things; we all face brokenness.
Indeed, this is a foundational truth of our fellowship together as Christians:
there are no perfect people among us,
pain and struggle are not to be hidden,
and there’s no need to pretend everything’s alright when it’s not.
In fact, I’ve also found that pain is God’s antidote for denial. Eventually the pain of going it alone, the ineffectiveness of not receiving help from others, outweighs the perceived pain of becoming open to their help, empathy, caring, and even correction.
Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge,
but whoever hates correction is stupid.
Ouch. But something in us knows this is true. It’s foolish to think we don’t have something to learn from others.
“We need someone who will ask us, ‘How’s it going? Is your way of life working? Do some things need to change? What are you struggling with in regard to sin or temptation?’ We need others to help us live up to our best intentions and deepest values.”
John Ortberg in Everybody’s Normal till You Get to Know Them
That’s so true. Simply put, we are better together.
We. are. better. together.
Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Think of it: no one to help them up. This should never be the case for a follower of Jesus, because no matter what happens in life we should always have each other, our brothers and sisters in Christ.
This is the question: Am I trying to do life disconnected from fellow Christians?
If so, stop it.
It doesn’t work. Life was never meant to work that way.
We’re not meant to go it alone, indeed we can’t. We need God’s healing, which He provides through others.